Comments on: It’s Ms. Ms.!! Say Mizzzzzzzzzzz!!!

By: michele

michele — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 02:42:48 +0000

Miz has a strong southern history anyway – weird that anyone would object to it!

By: Ashbet

Ashbet — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 02:08:31 +0000

!!!

I’ve always insisted on “Ms.” — I changed my name when I got married the first time (by choice), I kept that name when I got divorced, and I *still* kept it when I got married again (because it had been my name for half my life at that point) . . . and no matter what last name I use, or what my marital status is, I’d like the honorific to reflect that I am female, but not make a statement as to my availability/state of ownership/etc.

Kira and I had an interesting talk about this post in the car the other day, btw

– A (who has been running around too much to actually comment, heh!)

By: flexagon

flexagon — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 01:54:13 +0000

I put Ms on forms that make me have a prefix, as well.

It’s simply incorrect for me to be Mrs. Flexa Gon… it would be correct (if dreadfully formal) to be called Mrs. Heisen Bug, but since my last name isn’t his last name, that’s just weird.

By: Royalbananafish

Royalbananafish — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 00:09:03 +0000

Just more proof that you live in a backwards-ass region of the country. (I’m only 1/2 kidding.)

I, single, unmarried, never married, thirtysomething, use Ms. Frankly, it is nobody’s damned business whether I am married or not, also none of their beeswax if I choose Ms. or Miss. They can kiss my butt.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Thu, 03 Apr 2008 22:16:57 +0000

You know I had a very similar conversation with my mother the other day. I remember having someone in the high school I use to ask why I always addressed mothers of students as Ms. Turns out they had never heard nor see the form used and assumed that I was inferring that the mother was divorced. They we stunned by my response that no I had no clue of the students parents were married, divorced or not and honestly it was none of my business. Just as I would refer to a father of a student as Mr. I refer to the mother as Ms. Unless a person tells me otherwise tell me otherwise.

By: Trace

Trace — Thu, 03 Apr 2008 21:48:01 +0000

That is so completely fucked up — and absolutely tagged under, “My state is retarded.”

Trace

By: Deirdra

Deirdra — Thu, 03 Apr 2008 20:39:40 +0000

Elise,
I’m totally in agreement with you. I’ve always been a Ms., due to my mother’s feminist influence. My husband and I both became Harris Glovers (though his end is more tricksy than my own, screw gender disparity!!) because we wanted something outward that didn’t diminish either of our identities.

By: Elise Taylor

Elise Taylor — Thu, 03 Apr 2008 20:35:58 +0000

For whatever it’s worth, I also use Ms. I also didn’t take my husband’s surname – I am Elise Taylor, I want to continue to be Elise Taylor, and I don’t see much point in changing part of my core identity due to a piece of paper. I’ve used Ms. since before I got married as well – I see no reason it should not be the exact equivalent of “Mr.”

By: Sanitoid (Holly)

Sanitoid (Holly) — Thu, 03 Apr 2008 19:53:27 +0000

I always tell people its “Mizz Matheny” and encourage them to spell it as such.