May 27

Feminist Hulk is deep

 does not mean Yes, All Men. Thank you to the men who get that, and are standing in witness to women’s experiences.

I’ve been cooking down my feelings, and plain and simple, it goes like this. When confronted with unspeakable violence toward women (and a subsequent outpouring of women’s similar experiences), I wish our bros were more prone to think about how they would confront the next friend who started down a degrading path, rather than telling a woman they’re crazy/stupid/absurd for feeling threatened in their lives.

IF YOU AN ALLY, PROVE IT BY TRUSTING THAT  ARE NOT ATTACKING YOU, FOCUS INSTEAD ON MAN WHO GAVE EXPLICIT REASONS FOR HATING US.

It is far easier to say, HEY, I’M NOT THAT GUY, than to look around and think, Jesus, this was terrible. How can I make my corner of the world less tolerant of this societal cancer?

A dear friend observed that he can’t do anything about what happened at Isla Vista, but he could intervene when his clientele called women “bitches.”

I just wish I saw more “I really hope I’ve never done anything to wind up on #YesAllWomen, but if I have, I want to understand/fix it.”

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  1. http://www.championshipcoachesnetwork.com/public/375.cfm I wanted to share this link with you. I was listening to an interview with the Women’s US Soccer Coach. The interviewer asked him what the difference was between coaching men and women. The coach said, when you tell the team they need more strength training or something, the women think, Oh yeah, that would be good. And the next morning they are all in the weight rom before practice. But is the team is male, they al think, yeah, those other guys need strength training. This difference just seems to resonate with men and women’s responses to an issue that needs to be solved by changing behavior. Women and men need to speak out and change what they find acceptable and what they respond to as unacceptable. But women do thins more readily than men, in general. The key is to not back down, but to stand up to people who won’t listen. Also, constructive criticism and clear examples of how to change help make the changes more likely. As described in the linked page about coaching as well in your post. Men can say to other men, hey, that’s not cool.

    Thanks for your post.

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